Wedding Etiquette: Delicate Wedding Questions Answered
1. Do I have to send a physical invitation or can I use technology, such as email, to invite my guests?
You need to send a physical wedding invitation through the mail. Weddings are a special time in one’s life and the announcement of such a special event should be relayed in the traditional way of sending via regular mail. After the initial sending out of the wedding invitations you can definitely choose to use email as a way to inform everyone of anything you feel they need to know, such as a change of plans or where to meet for an unplanned brunch. Make sure you have everyone’s email addresses!
2. What should I do if my family wants their friends to come?
This is a tricky question because if your family is helping pay for the wedding then they should have some say in who comes, especially if they offer to specifically pay for the additional guests. Although… if you and your groom are paying for the wedding then you need to let your family know that they can invite no more than a certain number of guests and that is just the way it needs to be.
3. Is there a time limit for when I should mail my thank you notes?
Yes. Thank you notes should be sent within a month after the wedding, or two at the very most. For presents sent before the wedding you should really try to send a thank you note within 2 weeks. Think about the gift giver and how happy they will be when you acknowledge their gift in a timely manner.
4. Do I need to make sure all of my out-of-town quests have somewhere to stay?
Yes. Friends and family that don’t live in the area will need some lodging accommodations. A local hotel that is able to accommodate all your out-of-town guests is your best bet. This way everyone is in the same place making it easier to get together and celebrate this special wedding day. Be sure to make your guests feel welcome by giving them a gift basket full of fun and useful items they can use while visiting. We have great deals with the best hotels in Israel, be sure to contact us if you need help booking rooms for your guests.
5. How can I let all my friends and family know about my wedding without inviting them?
There are two options for you here. First, you can announce your engagement for everyone to know that you are indeed engaged 3-4 months before the wedding. This way you’ve spread the word and have let all your friends and family know that you are now engaged to be married. Your second choice would be to announce your marriage after the wedding takes place and send out wedding announcements to let everyone know that you are now married.
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